We must not contradict, but instruct him that contradicts us; for a madman is not cured by another running mad read more

We must not contradict, but instruct him that contradicts us; for a madman is not cured by another running mad also.

We tell our triumphs to the crowds, but our own hearts are the sole confidants of our sorrows.

We tell our triumphs to the crowds, but our own hearts are the sole confidants of our sorrows.

No one ever won a chess game by betting on each move. Sometimes you have to move backward to get read more

No one ever won a chess game by betting on each move. Sometimes you have to move backward to get a step forward.

It is an immense loss to have all robust and sustaining expletives refined away from one! At. moments of trial read more

It is an immense loss to have all robust and sustaining expletives refined away from one! At. moments of trial refinement is a feeble reed to lean upon.

People have a natural tendency to flee to the mountains when things get tough.

People have a natural tendency to flee to the mountains when things get tough.

Violence in the voice is often only the death rattle of reason in the throat.

Violence in the voice is often only the death rattle of reason in the throat.

Anger cannot be dishonest.

Anger cannot be dishonest.

It all changed when I realized I'm not the only one on the planet who's scared. Everyone else is, too. read more

It all changed when I realized I'm not the only one on the planet who's scared. Everyone else is, too. I started asking people, "Are you scared, too?" "You bet your sweet life I am." "Aha, so that's the way it is for you, too." We were all in the same boat. That's probably what is so effective at our workshops. When I ask, "Who else feels like this?" the whole room of hands goes up. People realize they are not the only one who feels that way.

Is suffering so very serious? I have come to doubt it. It may be quite childish, a sort of undignified read more

Is suffering so very serious? I have come to doubt it. It may be quite childish, a sort of undignified pastime -- I'm referring to the kind of suffering a man inflicts on a woman or a woman on a man. It's extremely painful. I agree that it's hardly bearable. But I very much fear that this sort of pain deserves no consideration at all. It's no more worthy of respect than old age or illness.